The tricky thing about limiting beliefs is that you DON´T KNOW it´s just your belief. You can see something as a reality and don´t question if it´s true or if it´s just your limited perspective on the situation. Sometimes, you reveal the truth only in confrontation with others. And maybe the sudden realization can hit you as a brick in the head as it happened to me 😂
The story about my limiting beliefs and the shock of revealing the truth 🙂
As I was in Florence for the first time, my friend showed me a fountain with a metal wild boar. “Put a coin into the boar’s jaws! If it falls through the grating, you will return to Florence. Come and try that!” asked me with an excited smile. I politely smiled back but I wasn´t excited at all. Actually, I was quite anxious by the thought that it could go wrong and I wouldn´t turn again. And it would break my heart because, with this city, I fell in love at first sight. I was lucky, the coin fell into the right place. I could almost hear the big stone falling off my shoulders: I can come here again!
And this could be the end of the story BUT… A few years later, I visited Florence with my youngest daughter (she was 15 back then). I showed her the fountain, told the story, and asked her to try. Here´s her answer:
I´m not going to do that. I like this city so I´ll turn again. I can decide myself, I don´t need to ask permission from a stupid pig!
I was shocked!
Not because of the answer because she had all the points. I was shocked by the realization that back then when I was asked to do that, the idea of refusing what I actually didn´t want to do didn´t even pop up in my mind!
For me, it was just a matter of fact that I must do what I was asked to do and that´s it, like it or not. This people-pleaser mentality was imprinted in me so deeply and I didn´t even realize that! The victim mode I was in, just complaining about what was happening to me without even thinking about speaking up or changing the situation…
And another revelation: I don´t need to take the story so seriously, this is just for having fun! The excitement and curiosity, the adventure of making the test and feeling the thrill for a second until the coin falls down. This fun game DOESN´T DETERMINE my future! It is my decision if I turn back or not! Why was I so scared? Why did I believe I had no power over my destiny?
And the revelations continue…
I thought I learned the lesson so I wanted to record a video about my insight in front of the fountain. While I was waiting until the group of tourists finished their explorations with the boar I experienced another shock: “Oh, what a pity… (obviously the coin didn´t hit the right place). Try again!” WHAT??? You are allowed to give it another try? Why did I expect I had only one fatal attempt? The idea of the second (or even third) tentative didn´t even pop up in my limited mind… Can you see how these limiting beliefs caused all this unnecessary pain?
This is still not the end of the story…
I decided to write down this experience so I checked on Google the original story to put that the right way. Guess what I found out?!
“Visitors to Il Porcellino put a coin into the boar’s gaping jaws, with the intent to let it fall through the underlying grating for good luck, and they rub the boar’s snout to ensure a return to Florence, a tradition that the Scottish literary traveler Tobias Smollett already noted in 1766…”
WHAAAAT???? So I experienced that moment of pure terror absolutely unnecessary because for returning back, it was enough just to rub the boar’s snout!
Can you see at how many levels I limited myself without even recognizing that? What are your limiting beliefs? Where are you sabotaging yourself subconsciously because of what you believe about yourself or your life circumstances?